This week, I overheard several conversations that sent my annoyed and PMSing rant radar into overload. Some people really need help with their question filters:
1. "Congrats on being pregnant! How far along are you?" Ummmm... She wasn't pregnant. Enough said.
2. "Whoa. What's up with your face?" Said by one girl to another about a recent acne outbreak which she gets with her period and from working out. Not that it is anyone's business WHY she had the acne. A polite person would never ask such a thing.
My mommy judgement alarm was blaring and it took everything I had not to interrupt this conversation and say "WTF?!!" This ranks easily up there on my anger range scale with "those moms" who think it is okay to park their oversized Escalades (still running) in the handicapped parking spots while they quickly run in to pick up their kids, because apparently they are important and do not need to park in regular spots like the rest of us. I digress.
Firstly, let me say that I get it. Being a full-time working mom is flipping hard. Finding the balance between work responsibilities and your children is not always easy. But for me, this is a no-brainer. MY CHILD COMES FIRST. I would never leave my sick, fussy, feverish child with anyone but me or my husband (she dumped her baby off with Grandma, so now poor granny is likely to get sick). I also feel as a parent that has to use a daycare for her child that it is my social responsibility to inform them exactly what my child is sick with so other parents can be aware and prepared for what their kids may be exposed to. Nothing ticks me off more than when Jack gets sick with things like croup and viral pneumonia (both uber contagious) when nothing has been announced. There is NO OTHER way he could pick that up other than through other kids at daycare- we are lucky if we have time to get him a haircut on most weekends. How insanely selfish is it to keep that information "under the radar" at the risk of exposing other kids to an extremely icky and contagious illness. So. Irresponsible. My husband and I also work as a team. When the kid gets sick, we can pretty much assume a 2-3 day stint at home. We take turns staying home and do our fair share. Yes. It totally sucks having to use limited PTO time to stay home with a sick kid. Yes. You'll have to cancel meetings and deal with the stink eye from the childless folks. But hey, that is the reality of being a parent.
I cannot even express how much overhearing (okay... it started with overhearing and maybe turned into a little eavesdropping) this conversation totally angered me. So, I ask (beg), with the utmost respect and understanding for the working mom, please keep your contagious, sick child away from mine.