Just Because I Have a Kid

 Just because I have a kid...

• Doesn't mean I can't get my work in on time

• Means that daycare closes every once in awhile and their closed dates do not always coincide with work's paid holidays. I have to take those days off. I don't have any other options.

• Means that he comes first. Always. 

I write this post walking a little on eggshells... from someone who came from the world of infertility, I remember feeling like those who had kids somehow got a free ticket to get out of work whenever they darn well felt like it to have all this great wonderful time outside of work. I always got stuck being the one to work. It drove me crazy. However, the shoe is now on the other foot. I don't find it any great treat having to pick up my sick child from daycare to go home and have to clean up his blowouts, keep his fever down, wipe his tears away. It is heartbreaking. It is exhausting.

It is still strange for me to be on the other side of infertility. So many times I feel like I shouldn't ever complain. Not that I take a second of being a mom for granted, but, there are a lot of things that I thought would be easier than they are when it comes to caring for a small child. I actually take back a lot of things that I might have said back in my bitter infertile days. The work situation is one of those things. I regret complaining about not being able use a kid as an "excuse" to leave work (those were my old words). It is definitely not an excuse- it is very real. I also was naive to think that it would make my marriage better and more beautiful but the reality is that it adds a whole new level of complexity and complication to the relationship. We have to work harder than ever to keep our marriage happy.